please remind me of this when I'm feeling weak

[caramelsilver]

So I've been thinking. I need to get things together. I need to start focusing on school work, and stop focusing on a guy who clearly doesn't have any time for me. Because I don't think he doesn't like me, I just think that he clearly doesn't have any time left for a new person in his life, and he's just plain too nice to say so. So I'm pulling out. If he wants to see me, he'll contact me, and make time for me. It's that simple. I haven't done anything wrong, this is not my fault, but I can't do this any more. I have given him plenty of chances to hang out, made my level of interest pretty clear, and it's up to him now. I give up, because this emotional turmoil I go through every other day or so, is just too exhausting. I can't do this any more.


lovemoony4ever: YOU ARE SO AMAZING! I love my baby otter so much, and it really, really, really brightened up my day and made me immensely happy! &hearts &hearts

Comments

[lovemoony4ever.livejournal.com]

Aww, you are very welcome:) ♥

That seems to be a very sensible choice. As you say, if he wants to contact you, he will, for now you have to do what's best for your own mental health *hugs*

[caramelsilver.livejournal.com]

:D &hearts

I just have to remind myself of this. It's what's best for me.

[13oct.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Boys are sometimes as dumb as rocks. Unfortunately, a lot of them stay that way even when they turn into men.

I know it sounds preachy, but what you are doing is really the best thing. Also making any guy work for attention always is the best policy. The twits never appreciate anything if it is easily gained.

[caramelsilver.livejournal.com]

Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them :P

No, I really, really appreciate your advice and insight, I really, really do! And yes. This is for the best. I just have to keep reminding myself of this and be strong. Because I'm kind of weak.

[maureen.livejournal.com]

I go away for a little bit and all kinds of things happen! What guy?

[caramelsilver.livejournal.com]

Hehe! There really isn't much of a story, except I re-met this guy in October. He said I should hang out at church more, join the tensing choir and stuff. So I did, and we started talking. Then we started talking a lot. And I kind of fell in love with him. And then nothing happened except we kept talking online and texting (everyday! I talked more with him than I did my best friend!), but never really seeing each other because we never managed to find a suitable day. Then after Christmas we started talking less. Then I got kind of mad at him, asked him what was up, was he still interested in being my friend? he was like yeah, totally, so sorry for not keeping in touch, lets do something this weekend. I said, great which day? he said Saturday. Then he goes and cancels Friday night. And I decided that I can't do this any more. Cause he obviously does not feel the same way I do, he can't even find the time to be my friend.

And that was kind of long. Sorry. Pathetic, yes. But I have never really had these kinds of feelings before, so I don't really know how to handle them. So I'm all messed up, and so I've decided that I don't want to be messed up any more. So... yeah.

[maureen.livejournal.com]

Hey woman ~

Sorry for the delayed response. I'm still getting caught up with my life. Anyway, it's not a bad story... it's one I know well. I've been in your shoes and my experience has been that if it causes that much internal twisting, it is not meant to be. The best romantic experiences I have had have been easy and comfortable.

[zempasuchil.livejournal.com]

Aw man, that sounds really tough. I'm sad it isn't working out with this guy currently! But what you're doing sounds right, really it does. You have to take care of yourself, give yourself a break and don't put so much energy into something you're not really getting enough out of. *hugs*

[caramelsilver.livejournal.com]

You have to take care of yourself, give yourself a break and don't put so much energy into something you're not really getting enough out of. -- This is a brilliant piece of wisdom my friend!

&hearts thanks!